Wise Words from a psychologist for all Americans, indeed, all humans world wide,
in the current crises:
“Do what you can, with what you have, with where you are RIGHT NOW.”
“I am the decisive element in [my life]. It’s my personal approach that creates the climate. It’s my daily mood that makes my weather!
As a [human being], I possess a tremendous power to make [my life, and indirectly, other people’s lives] miserable or joyous.
I can be a tool of torture or an instrument of inspiration. I can humiliate or humor, hurt or heal.
In all situations, it is my response that decides whether a crisis will be escalated or de-escalated and [each other person] humanized or de-humanized.
Never deny or ignore [others’] feelings.
Only behavior is treated as unacceptable, not the [person].
Depersonalize negative interactions by mentioning only the problem.
Attach rules to things...
Dependence breeds hostility.
[Others] need to learn to [be free to] choose, but within the safety of limits.
Limit criticism to a specific event—don't say ‘never,’ ‘always,’ as in: ‘You never listen,’ ‘You always'..."
Refrain from using words that you would not want [others] to repeat.
Ignore irrelevant behavior.
Truth for its own sake can be a deadly weapon in...relations. Truth without compassion can destroy love.
Some...try too hard to prove exactly how, where and why they have been right. This approach will bring bitterness and disappointment.
When attitudes are hostile, facts are unconvincing."
Adapted from Haim Ginott, psychologist, psychotherapist, and educator,
Today’s Education, November-December 1973
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Such important insights!
In the Light,
Daniel Wilcox
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